Practical Tips For Staying Positive & Optimistic

It’s mid-March now and this is the time of year in the northern hemisphere when, even if it’s still cold or snowy, we begin emerging from winter. Sometimes it’s just a mental emergence, and other times we can see it happening around us in nature. As life begins to rumble beneath the ground, making its way upward and outward again, and as buds begin to appear on otherwise bare branches, we see reflected back to us our own chance to be in a gently wakeful state as we live a happy, balanced life.

Winter months can make us sleepier, down, or more sluggish. If we’ve been powering through this natural time of rest, we will likely begin to feel the effects at this point in the year. Effects like the beginnings of burnout, overwhelm, confusion, discontentment. Before we succumb to any of that, this is a great time of year to check in with the state of our minds and make any necessary mindset shifts that could help us emerge in spring with more energy and clarity.

In an effort to help you function from a place of santosa (contentment) and experience fuller happiness, today I’m offering these practical tips for getting—and staying—positive and optimistic.

As you read on, you’ll learn about 3 tried and true practices to help
shift your mindset for the better:

Breath of Joy (what it is, and how to do it)
Mindfulness For Practical Life (by way of breath / by way of body)
Trusting (prompts for practice)



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BREATH OF JOY…


Getting out of our heads and into our bodies is one of the quickest, most effective ways of shifting our mindset and priming ourselves for being positive and optimistic. My favorite yoga practice that always brings me the instant gratification of heightened energy, clarity and happiness is Breath of Joy! It’s a simple practice you can do any time you need a pick-me-up. Breath of Joy is especially helpful to me when I hit an afternoon slump, when I’ve been sitting still in my body but working my brain for a long period of time and I need to shake off the stagnation, or any time I feel my emotions or thoughts waning toward anger, resentment, confusion, judgment, negative self-talk, or sadness.

If you’re new to Breath of Joy, watch my video here to learn the basic moves. You can follow along with it for the first few passes and then do it any time you need to. It’s a little whacky looking at first, but you’ll get it quickly! It’s sure to give you a clearer, more joyful mindset. Once you get the hang of it, I suggest practicing 10 rounds at a time.

MINDFULNESS FOR PRACTICAL LIFE…

One of the greatest tools derived from yoga and meditation is present moment awareness, otherwise known as, practicing mindfulness. Want to change your mindset? Give yourself the gift of present moment awareness!

When you’re stressed, you’re likely future tripping or dwelling on the past. You are not present. You may find yourself mentally spinning, as if in an eddy, wanting that which is impermanent to be permanent. You’re caught up in your thoughts, not your present reality.

STEP 1— ATTENTIVE BREATHING

If you’re feeling particularly anxious and like you “can’t breathe”, skip this step and go straight to step 2 below. Then return to this. Typically we start with the breath to calm us down, but having had panic attacks before, I know sometimes we need to go through the gross body and thinking mind before we can truly slow, and pay attention to our breath.


Usually the first, very accessible way to get present is to utilize the breath. Try taking a deep breath through your nose and, if only for the moment it takes to breathe one breath in and out, BE HERE NOW. Be fully present with your breath. For this moment, pay attention only to your breath. Let everything else besides your breath fall away. Be sure to breathe through your nose and not your mouth. Nasal breathing centers the nervous system.

Bring yourself to full present moment breath-awareness by asking these questions:

  • What does the breath feel like?

  • What does it sound like?

  • What muscles activate in my body as I breathe in and out?

  • Where am I holding tension in my body?

  • How does it feel when I slow the breath and consciously release that tension?

  • Do I feel completely full when I inhale, or could I take in more breath?

  • Do I feel completely empty when I exhale, or could I send out more breath?

  • You have time to do this. You deserve this. I mean really, it’s just one breath!

I have the sneaking suspicion however, that once you get truly present with one breath, you will continue to breathe this way for several more… and your mindset will change to a more calm, optimistic one.

STEP 2— JOURNEY AROUND THE BODY


The quickest path I’ve found to become presently aware, is though the body: Notice your body in this moment. I’m talking about noticing your body position, where and how you are holding yourself in space—not what you look like. Name what you notice in nonjudgmental terms. There is no right or wrong, good or bad. There just is, what is. How are you feeling physically? What sensations are you aware of? Where are they?

Take some deep, slow breaths, close your eyes and, with no judgment whatsoever, just awareness, take yourself on a journey around your whole body. Relax each part of your physical self as you bring your attention to them. Don’t skip any part of your body. Be sure to relax the muscles of all the little forgotten parts—like your earlobes, the back of your neck, the back of your knees—just as much as the parts you're usually more aware of like your arms and legs

Let go of every distraction around you and stay focused on the state of your body and your ability to relax it in this moment.

Once you’ve brought awareness and relaxation to each part of your body, land on your mind. Notice any thoughts or busy chatter in your mind. Notice the mind’s general focus (or lack thereof). What are you thinking about? What are you paying attention to? What’s your general demeanor? Are you thinking positively, negatively, or indifferently in this moment? Again, there is no right or wrong, good or bad. There just is, what is. What’s the energy level and emotional state of your mind in this moment? Try to relax your mind just as you relaxed your muscles. Let go of any and all thoughts from before and choose your next thought with wisdom and consciousness.

You get to choose what your mind focuses on!

You get to choose how you’re going to respond (feel) in any given moment!

Working with our minds is challenging work, but it is worth the time and effort. It’s the stuff of magic on earth because it’s so transformative!

A TRUST PRACTICE…


When all seems glum or overwhelming, seek first to trust that all is well. To remain hopeful is to remain in a mindset of trust.

I find positive words to be a big part of my healthy, happy mindset practices. You can use the prompts below as actions to take, affirmation statements, or journaling prompts.

It takes effort for a while, and can feel awkward or clunky at first. It will eventually become second nature to the practiced mind to skip right to a place where you trust yourself to get through things that have gone awry and be better for them, and where you trust that you are always being guided. To get there, try these prompts when you’re called to:

  • Trust that you are loved and supported. You might repeat to yourself, “I am loved and supported!”

  • Trust that good things are coming and good things are happening now. You might say to yourself, “I may not know what they are, I may not see them in this moment, AND, good things are available to me. Good things are in the works! Good things are happening!” As if magically, when I do this I become aware of good things in the world around me, and in my life. Once that awareness comes in, possibility comes back and I become capable once again of solving my problems (or at least seeking out useful help). You might also try listing out the good things you become aware of through this practice and reading them often, adding to your list as you notice more.

  • Trust in your amazingness — you are such brilliant design, capable of shifting your thoughts from negative ones to positive ones. “I am capable! I am human and that inherently means that I am an amazing being!”

  • Trust that the world is always healing, always in good hands. Even when we don’t see or grasp the healing, or when we fear for the greater good, there is healing happening now. There are good people everywhere who want what’s best for everyone. When we look from that lens, we either find or we create healing, so trust in your ability to look for the healing opportunity in every situation.

  • Trust the people in your life who always have your back, who always speak the truth to you. When you’re unsure, go to them and listen with your whole heart.

  • Trust the sweet, little signs coming to you. The pages you automatically open to in a book, the object that falls at your feet, the bits of nature that catch your eye as if for the first time ever. Listen for the messages that rise up through you and trust your intuition.


All of these tips are practical applications of ancient teachings that hold true to this day. All of them take some practice, and not one of us is perfect at them every single time. We will all find our positive mindset dwindle at some point. Humans are beautiful, perfectly imperfect beings in that way. We are all also capable of reining our thoughts in and directing them toward a more positive, optimistic view… it just sometimes takes some know-how, practice and reminding.

Try these methods and let me know how they work for you. I hope every word here serves you well and leads you back to your inherent happiness. May you live a life of positive optimism! Namaste!

New Year's Traditions #inspiredbyyoga

I love the last week of the year.  I feel like so much settles and calms down, giving us a peaceful moment to catch our breath and be more still.  

I find myself more and more effected by the hustle energy that leads up to the holidays.  It’s then — when the outside world creeps into my mind that my yogic practices come in extra handy to keep me centered and calm.  Or at least working toward being centered and calm!  Then, once that whole fast paced, 8,000 sale emails a day, extra tasks to do, festive activities not to be missed, scattered and busy (albeit love-filled and truly enjoyable) season passes, it feels like a giant exhale to me.

All nighters filled with clanging glasses and loud horns to ring in the new year are a cherished memory of my past.  Though I do love to don a sparkly crown and dance the night away, now once New Year’s Eve rolls around, I’m in the mood for a simple, heartfelt evening spent with my favorite people.  There’s still bubbly and delicious food, but I’ve traded the fanfare for something a bit more #inspiredbyyoga.

MY FOUR FAVORITE NEW YEAR’S RITUALS

#1 NEW YEAR’S REFLECTIONS
Taking this time to reflect can bring forth clarity you’ll carry with you in the new year.  It can allow you to feel peace within and take mindful actions.  And, it can be done simply by the even the busiest among us.

I want to be clear, I’m not talking about taking time to make new year’s resolutions and contemplate all the things you “should have done” in 2017!  If that’s where your head is at New Years, I encourage you to stop should-ing on yourself and be here now:  in acceptance and grateful for the opportunity of today as well as every opportunity the last 365 days have brought you.  Opportunities to be authentically you.  Opportunities to expand your capacity to love.  Opportunities to connect.  Opportunities to be present.  Opportunities to learn and grow forward.  Opportunities to choose happiness.  It would be virtually impossible to take advantage of every opportunity life gives us every moment, but taking time now to reflect on them allows us to really see and benefit from them.  Science tells us that mentally reliving or imagining positive events is almost as heart connecting as actually living those moments.  Amazing!  After reflection, when wonderful opportunities appear again later, we tend to be more aware of them, more ready for them.

So, give up the pressure of New Year’s Resolutions by releasing judgement and embrace New Year’s Reflections!  You can do this alone or with a loved one (who probably has some memories of amazing moments of you that you’ve forgotten!).  

Here are some of my favorite prompts to reflect upon.  See if you can come up with at least one for each of these:

  • What have I accomplished?
  • What failures gave me something to learn from?
  • What's worked?
  • What hasn’t worked?
  • What have I wished for more of?
  • What have I wished for less of?
  • What new things did I learn?
  • What have I forgotten about that I might like to rekindle?
  • Where and when did true happiness bloom in my days?
  • What has brought me great joy?
  • What am I currently feeling most passionate about?
  • What might I like to let go of?
  • What were some happy moments of 2017?
  • What am I looking forward to in 2018?


#2  HONORING THE EARTH
In our family we like to make a sacred circle around a globe each New Year’s Eve, surrounding it with symbols of each season.  We sit together doing a short Vippasana mediation (focusing on our breath) and then I usually guide a little meditation conjuring gratitude for Mother Earth and all her wonders.  After that we go around the circle sharing happy memories from, and discussing the brilliance of nature during each season.  Last year our friends made a giant crisp rice globe and we even lit a candle in it and sang happy birthday to the earth.  I hang out with incredible people!

symbols from each season for us to circle

symbols from each season for us to circle

#3 HAPPINESS/GRATITUDE JARS
A fun tradition among my tribe is making an annual Happiness Jar (or box, or bag, or envelope….).  If you don’t already know, a Happiness Jar is a place to keep little reminders of your happiest moments throughout a year.  Some people like to write their happiest moment of each day (we say ours nightly at bedtime) and others like to write down something special to remember each week.  The notes get dropped into the jar, filling it as the year goes on.  On New Year’s Eve/Day it’s fun to go through the notes from last year and read them aloud, reminiscing sweetly.  

Additionally, started a few years back by my dear friend, we now like to make a gratitude jar on New Year’s Eve.  As with the Happiness Jar, we drop notes of grateful memories from the passing year and one by one we pull them out and read them aloud.  Our hearts feel fuller and our spirits glow as each note is read!

my friend uses cut pieces of her kids' artwork for happiness notes - so pretty!

my friend uses cut pieces of her kids' artwork for happiness notes - so pretty!

#4 MAKING WISHES & SETTING INTENTIONS
You might like also to make lists of wishes or intentions for the upcoming year and share them with each other so you can check in throughout the year and see how those are manifesting.  The only rule I set for this is that there is NO pressure, attachment or expectation placed on any wishes or intentions by you or your vision holders!  Simply state what’s in your heart now and allow things to unfold naturally, in the ways that feel best in the new year.  If it feels right, they can be let go or changed at any time!

Some people like to use flash paper to make their wishes — that nifty stuff you can write on and then light on fire and watch as it floats up and dissipates.  A lovely reminder of the impermanence of everything, the importance of letting go of attachment to the outcome, and the sweetness of trusting all is well.  I was gifted adorable seed paper this holiday and am looking forward to writing some wishes and intentions on it, planting the pages, and watching them bloom!

my wee girl (even wee-er) making wishes & listing gratitude

my wee girl (even wee-er) making wishes & listing gratitude

so sweet!

so sweet!


Whatever your traditions, may you feel loved and supported from inside and out as you step boldly and welcome this new year into your heart!